I was surprised yesterday when my dietitian at the Emily Program asked me if I was eating dessert right after dinner…like basically with dinner, or if it was a separate snack/meal later in the evening.
She told me that dessert is definitely a-okay and I should enjoy it, but I need to think WHEN I’m enjoying it and WHY.
She challenged me to either eat my dessert with dinner, or earlier in the day…but not at a time separate from dinner in the evening. I was bummed, why does it matter? Dessert fits in my food plan, I’m not overeating, I like having dessert as a decompress in the evening……
That was it, I was tying dessert in with decompressing, getting comfortable, relaxing in the evening…aka EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.
Her and I then talked about that an emotional reason for eating any food is something I definitely want to redirect. This probably is one of my last major emotional tie-ins with food. It didn’t seem that unreasonable to leave it be. I pretty much only eat when I’m hungry now, I eat much slower, I pay attention, stop when I’m satisfied (not full, satisfied)….but one little thing, one little trigger area, one emotional tie-in…if I leave it there, just like any demon, it could come to haunt me in bigger ways later.
So, we talked about different things non-food related that I could do do relax…..games on my phone, knitting, tv, reading, meditating.
She also said, if I’m hungry, definitely eat something, just not a dessert…then its eating b/c I’m hungry, not an emotional tie in.
Well, guess what….while I do sometimes like dessert during the day instead of the evening (like an ice cream cone or fro yo)….its rare these days. Last night I asked myself if I wanted to eat dessert when I was done eating dinner…nope, didn’t want it.
Later in the evening, so I wouldn’t start thinking about dessert I picked up my phone and played some games, then watched TV, then got in bed and perused FB. Yup…all evening..no dessert, no snacks….not hungry.
I think there are special occasions where dessert will get tied into a later in the evening type of thing….like birthday dinners or eating out with friends (though its not much later, you’re still at the restaurant!)….but I’ve definitely learned a lesson here.
What do you think? Why do you eat a snack at night after dinner/before bed? What are you eating? Are you hungry or do you just need a different way to decompress?